Are you self-sabotaging yourself?
January 15, 2020
Are you self-sabotaging yourself? Many of us do it so often that we don’t recognize it! Then we wonder why things are going the way we hoped or planned.
There are many ways that a person can sabotage themselves, but “perfection thinking” is one of the frequent ways I see in the people who come to see me for help with eating habits and nutrition-related issues.
What is perfection thinking?
Perfection thinking leads us down the insidious path of self-doubt and loss of self-confidence because it’s the voice inside us that whispers or screams “well you blew that one!” or similar phrases. Hearing that often leads us to abandon our efforts because we forget a key rule about succeeding.
When perfection thinking is apt to creep in
It’s the self-sabotaging voice you might hear after your goal to change (you fill in the blank) about your eating habits falls through after a few weeks…or days.
Or, maybe it’s the one you hear when you realize you haven’t used that exercise exhibit or gym membership in…weeks?!
You may hear it when you step on the scale and see that your weight is not where you want it to be.
How to deal with perfection thinking
First, recognize that perfection thinking is something many of us do. I struggle with it too! We’ve probably been self-sabotaging ourselves this way for a very long time. Like any new habit or skill, shifting away from this type of self-sabotaging will take some time and you may need help from friends, family and expert professionals to help you with this.
Second, work on changing your focus to the three small, but powerful, words below:
Progress, not perfection
Finally, recognize that when you’re working on changing eating habits or food related habits, there’s a lot going on that may be contributing to making it harder for you to achieve what you want. It doesn’t have to be that way!
- Identify what you’re already doing right and what you may want to change.
- Understand how to avoid the biology versus willpower competition that can make it harder for you to achieve your goals.
- Discover which foods can help you feel great as well as be enjoyable.
- Learn how to choose and prepare meals and snacks that fit your preferences, schedule, and life.
- Overcome barriers that get in your way.
- Develop habits, routines, and skills that keep you on track even after you stop working with me.
- Learn to work with your body and metabolism as you get older.
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Having personally struggled with weight and gut health issues, I understand how easy it is to think that food is the enemy especially with the changes our bodies undergo as we age. It doesn’t have to be that way!
I love using my extensive education and coach approach to help people realize it is possible to feel better and be healthier while still enjoying their life and food.